Sometimes it can be really hard to meet your needs and there can be things that get in the way.
You might then try to meet your needs through unhelpful ways, particularly if these are things that you have done before, because we often go back to old habits, particularly in times of stress.
Here’s an example
Tony has previously been convicted of internet offences. Tony lives alone and is quite isolated. However, he places great emphasis on social contact/activity which he used to meet through online chat. Tony has decided to meet this need by volunteering to undertake work in a community garden where he would meet a lot of new people.
Continuing with the example of Tony – he may face barriers to meeting his need for connection as his restrictions, due to previous convictions, mean he can’t volunteer in the garden because a lot of young people spend time there. Tony has the potential to relapse into inappropriate use of the Internet in order to meet other people again. However, Tony was aware this might be a problem and had planned ahead so he had a backup plan. He thought that if he was unable to do voluntary work in the garden he would be able to work for the local animal shelter. Tony was able to start walking dogs for the charity and met other volunteers so still got a chance to meet his need for socialising, plus he started doing more exercise so felt healthier.
How do I plan for obstacles?
Some obstacles are easier to overcome than others. To overcome them you might need to get help or support from professionals or specialist organisations (such as counselling to deal with grief or other negative life experiences).
Some obstacles can take a long time and will be hard work to overcome, for example, building self-confidence. But obstacles can be beaten and it is important to keep positive when tackling obstacles. See our problem-solving section for advice on how to overcome obstacles.
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