What is fantasy?

Do you ever think about winning the lottery? How would you spend the money? Where would you go? This is one example of a fantasy. A fantasy is something that is imagined.

Why do people have fantasies?

Fantasies can be about a range of different things and everybody will have their own reasons for engaging in a fantasy. For some people, a fantasy will give them better confidence and a sense of control over a situation by letting them rehearse how they will deal with a situation.

For other people, it might be a way to release stress (escapism) or a way to experience things that they wouldn’t in everyday life (that lottery win). Negative fantasies can be a way that people try to cope and prepare themselves for something they fear will happen, or a way of punishing themselves. Some people use sexual fantasies as a form of sexual outlet, often if they are not meeting their sexual needs within a relationship.

A fantasy can have:

  • positive outcomes: for example imagining achieving an award or winning a competition.
  • negative outcomes: for example if a partner does not return home on time, imaging that they have been in a car accident.

Some fantasies are:

  • planned, rehearsed and used repeatedly by a person, for example scoring a world cup goal.
  • triggered by an emotional response or something that happens, for example replaying bad day at work.

Sometimes a person’s thoughts stray and it takes them a short time to realise they are fantasising and not doing what they are supposed to be doing.

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