Sometimes overcoming obstacles involves thinking outside the box (or from a new perspective!). An easy way of practising this skill is to do a simple brainstorm, this is where you put down all your ideas relating to something without criticising or finding obstacles to them. For example:
Then you can look back and review those that might work and those that aren’t very good – some of the ideas above may not be very practical but you may have also found a new and useful way of using toothpaste! The same exercise can be used when you are looking at bigger problems:
Again review and pick the best option for you, you may have to try a few before you find one that works but that’s why it’s great to have thought of so many ideas.
Now, try a brainstorm with one of your own obstacles and see how you get on – see if the approach helps you come up with new and different ways of dealing with your problem.
Ways to avoid acting on impulse
- Don’t allow other people to pressure you into making a decision
- Don’t panic when faced with a difficult decision- few good decisions are made in haste
- Sleep on it BUT don’t put off important issues for so long that you leave it to the last minute and then don’t have time to consider them
- Check the facts- seek other people’s views but don’t rely on opinions
- Write things down, make lists, notes
- Never sign anything without reading it and read everything at least twice
- Don’t be afraid to say if you are unsure, to clarify your understanding
- Don’t make decisions after taking drink or drugs
- Count to ten before responding
- Ask yourself how you will feel about the situation/decision next week or next year
